I have been dating my boyfriend for about two years. Our relations are not easy. Anyway it seems like he is exactly who I need in my life. He is interesting and hardworking. By the way his name is Joe. We met at a party of our mutual friends. Sometimes he seems to be just a perfect guy. Even though people are not perfect at all. Anyway he is perfect. Why so? Well, he tries to do his best. He springs surprises and I like them very much. But I have a problem. I just can’t stand his friends. When we meet his friends Joe changes. It seems like he is absolutely different. They joke about stupid things and it is absolutely okay for them to joke about me in my presence. They are not interesting at all and they are not interested in anything. They are ready to hang out every single day just doing nothing. Girls, alcohol, parties are the only things they are interested in. They want to be cool but you know they are not cool at all. I’m bored when I meet them. They have no hobbies. Well, I think some of them go in for sport. But I’m not sure actually. If even they do it their aim is to attract chicks. Why so? Well, people who pay much attention to their health do not drink so much as they do. When Joe leaves me just for a moment I have know idea what I can discuss with them. We share no common interests. I do not know anything about cars. That’s another issue they are interested in. “Look at me I have bought new Ferrari”. So what? I wish you bought new brains. And what can I do? I mean it seems like my boyfriend like his friends. But they are so different. Joe is sporty and cares about his health. He doesn’t drink. He even has never tried to smoke a cigarette. His friends are confirmed smokers. Joe is interested in arts and he expresses his interest in classical music. We do have many common interests. We like to travel and go to cinema. So usually we meet his friends in the bars or at the parties.
Much has been already said about how the girls should behave and what to say during the first date, yet there still remain questions without answers. Let’s summarize our knowledge concerning this topic and prepare for your greatest adventure – the first date.
The preparation begins far before this event – you choose what to wear, try not to eat much on the previous day in order to have a flat stomach at least for one evening, you may even decide to go to hairdresser. I know that some of you will disagree with me, but I will nevertheless risk saying – it is all pointless. Yes, you have heard me right, I think the most important thing is to look natural, to feel comfortable in your clothes and be yourself. Do you really think that the guy will notice that your skirt is fashionable and expensive? Believe me, it is your smile and your shining eyes that will attract him more than any dress.
Next, a few words about what to say. It is quiet easy – say what you want, do not pretend to be someone else. If the guy do not want to accept the real you, than there is no reason to continue dating him. I advice you also to listen to your partner attentively and do not interrupt him. Ask questions, show that you are interested in him, but try not to be annoying, some questions are not permitted on the first date, like, for example, how much money he earns and what is the number of his ex girlfriends. As for the topic of exes, avoid it completely! Do not compare him to your previous boyfriend even mentally, though I know this task may be hard to perform.